Aloysha's Guide to Gay Sex

Aloysha’s Book Of Gay Sex

Welcome Fangirls and Fanbois to Aloysha's Guide to Gay Sex, as written by a GayFanBoi. (Who better really? LOL)

Part 1

Kissing

At the risk of being preachy, kissing is a really intimate act. I’m probably more likely to put your cock in my mouth or let you fuck me than I am to kiss you. I do not just kiss anybody, and most of the people I kiss I’ll never sleep with. I'm not sure how many other guys follow along that vein, but I do and its my guide.

But honestly, without a good, spark filled kiss, your guy might as well go home, grab some lotion and jerk off. I mean, sure, some guys are fine with no kissing and straight fucking but if your going for one of those romantic lasting relationship stories, vs quick smut, a good kiss is important. Plus its good build up.

The key to good kissing is to actively use lips. There is nothing worse than kissing a guy who just tenses up and sits there. It’s annoying, similar to trying to kiss a statue or something along those lines, and who wants to kiss a statue, right? You have to remember this when you write, unless your guy is a shy first timer just having him sit there is lame.

So here we go. Take notes.

Relax, or at least make a concentrated effort to relax, your lips. Allow them to be soft and pliable. As you start to kiss, try gently brushing your partner's cheek with them, or run them along his neck just barely making contact with his skin. It’ll drive him crazy, the e, be, but not really contact. And crazy is good.

Don't be afraid to use your breath. Nothing is hotter than feeling someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean gently, we‘re talking spring breeze, not howling wind, okay?) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my neck, back, and arms. And goose bumps are good. Very good.

This type of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely sensual, and builds up sexual tension. It can also serve to establish nonverbal communication between the two of you. His reactions to this sort of foreplay will give your first indications of his overall sexual responsiveness. (And remember, all foreplay is good by default. There isn‘t enough foreplay in the world. Any guy who likes to kiss and touch before sex is a keeper, no matter how ‘unmanly‘ it may seem. You‘ll be grateful in the long run.)

As you get into it, you'll probably start using your tongue. Run or flick your tongue across his lips, moistening them slightly without actually kissing him. When you do finally kiss, make sure to lick your own lips from time to time to ensure their softness. It's not exactly a fun time to kiss someone whose lips have the texture of sandpaper. When you use your tongue on his neck, (And you should.) gently run it around his earlobe and ear. If you feel like it, suck on his earlobe - but not his ear. (Because, um, that’s icky, wet, and gross, not arousing) You may want to cover his entire ear with your mouth and gently exhale. Try not to inhale while doing this, and don't exhale too quickly because the rushing air will make him feel like he's in a wind tunnel.

When starting to "French" kiss, open your mouth just slightly. Do not open your mouth wide and stick your tongue way out, it‘s not appealing. You're trying to kiss here ... not eat a Big Mac! Besides, a little bit on tongue is a little bit of a teaser, and that’s kind of what foreplay is all about.

Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue into his mouth, and vice versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner's tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, making him feel like you're trying to rip his tongue from his mouth. Try gently nibbling or sucking on your partner's lips. Feel their texture, softness, and even their taste with your tongue. Though it's generally subtle and easily unnoticed, the lips of different men do actually have their own unique flavour. Be a creative kisser.

Always be aware of your teeth. It's not really pleasant to be French kissing someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth. Though teeth can effectively be used for fun. A light bite or nibble on your partner's chin can be a display of passionate sexual aggression :-)

When kissing someone - kiss him the same way you enjoy being kissed. Think back and remember a guy you really enjoyed kissing. How did he kiss you? What was so different about the way he kissed you? Try imitating those methods with your future partners.

I've found that most guys kiss with their eyes closed. Ignore the impulse to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them occasionally. It adds a new perspective to the experience.

When kissing other parts of your partner's body see if you can find his sensitive areas without asking him where they are. Explore his body with your lips, and pay attention to his feedback. Does he tense up? Does he hold you tighter? Does his breathing change? Is he smiling, etc.?

Some commonly sensitive areas are - love handles, the insides of thighs, the belly button, nipples, armpits, the small of the back, backs of knees, and so on. The "hot spots" vary greatly from one guy to another, as do degrees of sensitivity. Again, closely read his feedback, or he may end up being bored when you're earnestly doing your best to stimulate him.

Once again don't be afraid to use your imagination (because god knows you have quite the vivid imagination) - be creative, be playful, have fun with it. If you make an effort to be in-tune with your partner, chances are he'll return the favour and both of you will have a better time.

Oh, and if you're with a guy that says, "kissing is not my thing", then you've just wasted about 5 to 10 minutes of your time reading this, and even more time with said guy. Not that I should be giving dating advice…

Alright then. On to 'solo' activities.